Was chit-chatting with sis at home, talked about "Men having more than one women out thr".
Yea, her friends around her, ourselves, my friend around me, my relatives, all and all;
and it seems like "everyone" around us are having similar family background --
Their fathers/husbands are having anoth family out thr, or alot of mistresses out thr;
in conclusion -- there are so many womanisers around us.
Some wives seems to be very "naive" to "fight" for their marriage by hurting their husbands/mistresses outside;
Some friends hate their fathers to the max;
Some even go directly to the 3rd party out there to "revenge" or scold or slap or whatsoever they can do;
etc.
I used to "hate" my dad for having anoth family out thr. But as time goes by, i finally realized that i actuali hurt myself by hurting/hating him.
Anoth thing is that, i eventually "neutralized" myself by thinking maturely.
We shouldnt say dad is not a good husband or not a good man. He might not be "good" for mom, but only to mom. if hes bad, how come he can be with her for 15 years? I think the point is juz dad and mom re not suitable for each oth. in terms of their temper, etc. Both of them are damn hot temper, ego, etc.
A good and healthy relationship mz be built by 2 diff individuals who can match/suit each oth. One Positive and One Negative ;)
Don talk about others, what about myself xD
I personally think that, since guys are "born to be" womaniser, i mean, most of the time guys wil have anoth girl out thr, and if this is aldy a "principal" which we girls cant change it; and y don we juz adapt to it?
Sometimes guys tend to have anoth girls out there dont mean that they don love us anymore. They might jz need sth more "fresh". i mean, it is jz like... We cant eat chicken rice for every meal everyday. Sometimes we feel lik eating noodles, burgers, etc. But after all and all, chicken rice is still our favourite of most time.
If we girls know how to "manage" ourselves or work on with the relationships, our boys will still eventually come back to us.
We jz need to be there whenever they need us, trust them, not to "fight" even if we know they might be cheating us (if tats not a big lie or big deal). Give them a chance if necessary, don be so pushy, don over control them, etc. I bet guys always love freedom, and what we need to do is jz give them the freedom they want, until they re "tired", they wil still come back to rest by our sides.
Guys take their privacy importantly and critically i guess. So, don check their privacy. Im thinking, if they knw we will check on their mails/phones etc, they will delete the "sin" b4 we found out. rite? Since they will delete the things b4 we found out, so wats the point we still proceed to check their things? even if we check, we oso can check nothing actually. instead, y don we jz gv a trust, or jz don care wat they do; as long as they care for us and we care for them.
For me, don ask. don force. If they feel like telling us, they wil tell. Or else, no matter how or wat we ask oso they wont tell, or should i say, we ourselves are giving them the chance to cheat on us/telling lie. so, wats the point? ;)
No matter u like it or not, the above said are jz purely my personal thoughts.
